Here are three ways to save yourself from fear and pain.
If you are anything like me, you hate the idea of getting rejected and dealing with the fear of where to go next. We have all been at a party and seen the cute person on the other side of the room. We can’t keep our eyes off of them, and we want to go talk to them, but we worry that if we do follow through that they might say no or embarrass us.
We want to meet new people and start new relationships, but the fear of rejection keeps us at home or with the same people we already know.
So how do we overcome this anxiety? How do we becoming rejection-proof without changing our look, personality or wallet? Here are three ways to become rejection-proof and live our lives worry-free.
Don’t be afraid to express your emotions
What you are feeling is important. You should share what you are thinking and feeling. If you see someone that is cute, feel free to tell them. You have valid points and even if they don’t reciprocate the same feelings, you can be confident in yourself not only because you complimented another human being, but you were also true to yourself.
When you confidently express your thoughts and feelings, you will be more satisfied with yourself. You will know that you have tried, and it will give you more confidence and a stronger willingness to try more things in the future.
You are an important person and should be proud of where you are at in your life – including where you are emotionally.
Make “no” an opportunity
You don’t have to think that the end of one opportunity is the end of all the good things in your life. When one door closes, another one opens – yes, we have heard this saying a million times, but I believe it is one of the most important sayings we could believe in.
It’s important to remember that life is long and there are a lot of opportunities available to us. We don’t have to be stuck in a life we don’t want. If someone tells us no, we can look for other opportunities. Sometimes new opportunities take a little patience to see, but there will always be another person to meet, another job to apply for or another food to try.
There are so many movies in our pop culture that are trying to teach us to have courage about life.
In the movie We Bought a Zoo, the main takeaway from the movie was you can accomplish anything with only “20 seconds of insane courage.” That’s all the main character needed to meet a new person, build a lasting relationship and become who he wanted to be. We can do that in our own life – take 20 seconds and walk over to the hottie across the room or take 20 seconds to walk into your boss’ office. You can do hard things with a little bit of courage.
The recent rendition of Cinderella also teaches us about courage. The saying “have courage and be kind” got Cinderella through verbal and emotional abuse. It can get us through a lot of hard things in our life if we remember that we have control over our lives if we remember to have courage and be kind.
Remember that another person’s rejection doesn’t have anything to do with our personal worth; we decide what we are worth and what we can or can’t do.
We become rejection-proof when we remember to share who we are through our emotions, see “no” as the opportunity to move forward and remember to take courage.
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