If you want to find a man who will make it work, here are five special qualities you need to search for.
Breaking up seems easy to do for some men. And some men make breaking up with them unfortunately necessary. But not all men let love go so easily. The type of man who makes love worth working for is exceptional. So men who make it work with their partners have special qualities you need to search for. Here are five of them:
1. Good listening skills
A man who really knows how to listen will work harder to keep your union together. Someone who actually enjoys listening is a fantastic find. Listening is actually a skill – one that some men never learn. It isn’t just being quiet while someone is talking.
A good listener is able to put his pride and ego aside while he’s taking in information. He doesn’t get defensive and doesn’t stop listening when he hears something he doesn’t like. He can take criticism constructively and see the desire to move forward better than before. He can repeat back what you say in his own words to ensure he’s understood what you meant.
2. Empathetic understanding
Empathy is an essential quality for lasting love. An empathetic man puts himself in your position and sees a situation through your eyes. He doesn’t drill into you what you should do or what he would do. He helps you work through your own experiences without interfering or taking over. A man who is empathetic to your needs can be hard to find. But when you land one, he’ll put in the work it takes to keep you.
3. Creative problem solving
When discussion does need to turn into action, a man who will make things work will think of creative solutions. He is always anchored by logic and reason, but can branch out to more unconventional areas of thought. He can think outside the box and bend the rules just enough to get things done. He wouldn’t dare get you into trouble to make ends meet, but he’s willing to go outside of his comfort zone to change what isn’t working and fix what’s broken.
4. Calm communication
A man who will fight for his relationship is able to stay cool, calm and collected when communicating. He’s slow to anger and doesn’t get aggressive. Arguments don’t escalate, and the goal of reaching a solution or solving a problem stays in sight. Disagreements don’t devolve into a battle where one needs to win against the other.
He also understands that the discomfort he feels when you’re sharing something painful isn’t a reason to fight or flee. He stays and lovingly listens instead of running away or acting exasperated. He understands what you’re feeling is worse for you to go through than it is for him to hear about it.
5. Leading with love
A man who will fight for you thinks the best of you. He trusts you implicitly and gives you the benefit of the doubt. He automatically disbelieves negative rumors and assumes only your positive intention. He is your biggest cheerleader and defends you against detractors.
These qualities can be hard to find all in one place. But they’re incredibly special and important to the longevity of your relationship. This man is self-aware and willing to work on himself instead of running from his flaws and ultimately his relationships. He doesn’t blame his partners for all of the relationship issues, then transfer his inability to adapt and better himself to the next relationship. He will stick it out with the woman he loves and work on himself to make things better every day.
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